Sunday wasn’t a typical day on the forums. A young woman dealing with HIV and drug addiction posted a disturbing message. She claimed she was going to kill herself with a bottle of Xanax and vodka. Her post went into detail about her desperation for acceptance and support from her family, who has turned their back on her.
She also posted about a woman on the site who has been bullying her in the forums and how hopeless she felt because of it. She was coming to the site for friendship and emotional support and was met with humiliation and degradation more than once.
Fortunately one of her friends on the site had her phone number and contacted the local police in her town. The police found her address and they responded. She was found in time before she hurt herself. I have no doubt she was in an emotional crisis and if she hadn’t reached out for help she may have acted on her impulse to die.
The bully is one of the “heartless duo” (AKA Snake and Fake). I mentioned them in my earlier post Mean Girls #1. They stalk their prey together and then gang bang bully their victim. Snake is a ruthless 50 year old hag who prowls through the forums begging for attention. Fake is a bully in her late 50’s who desperately seeks approval.
Snake and Fake are a team but Snake is clearly the instigator. Fake follows her around the forums and adds her hateful, vicious comments to the posts that Snake targets. It’s obvious that they’re both damaged and neither has control over their need to belittle other women.
I hope the woman in crisis gets the professional help she needs. Her life is hard and dismal. The last thing she needs is to come to the forums and be bullied. Snake showed no remorse and took no responsibility for what happened with that woman. The next day she was doing the same thing to someone else.
Cyber stalkers are cowards whose written words are poison to the minds and emotions of the victims they choose.
There are many reasons why women opt to turn into female Hydes, but seemingly Malaysian women bullies are who they are because society made them so.
THERE have always been bullies, but the increase in adult “mean girls” (the namesake film and Gossip Girls popularised the misdeeds and misbehaviour of female bullies) which, if before it existed only in social circles, has spilled over into the workplace, and almost every sphere of life.
Based on my own experience of being the victim of cyber stalking, I’m going to share the stories of women who have been harmed online by female predators. This is the first of a series of posts dedicated to bringing awareness to the problem.
It’s difficult for me to imagine women victimizing other women. I’ve always had the opinion that women should be treated with dignity and respect. If that’s not possible it’s better to just walk away and not cause any harm.
Women are often subjected to harsh criticism at home, in the workplace and in social situations. The internet has now become a stalker’s paradise. Female predators are using websites, email, chat rooms and public blogs and forums to stalk and bully their victims.
Meet My Stalkers…
I have six cyber stalkers at the present time….all six are female predators.
I’ve been blogging with a group of men and women on a public forum for a few months. Many of the people I interact with have become personal friends.
Over the past four months it’s become increasingly ugly with a group of cyber stalkers whose only interest is to humiliate and victimize other women. Many of us have been repeatedly targeted, bullied and stalked by these women on the site.
These stalkers are adult women in ages ranging from their 40′s to 60′s. They gang up on their victim, sometimes two to four perpetrators working together at the same time.
They write a blog for the purpose of making a person the subject of ridicule and then they all post to it. They feed off each other and the posting goes on for several hours. They also instigate others to join in and post demeaning comments aimed at humiliating and bullying their target.
These women have never met me or talked to me outside of the dating site, and know nothing about me firsthand. They have no vested interest in a friendship with me. Yet they don’t hesitate to publicly criticize, bully and embarrass me on a regular basis.
They rely on gossip or personal opinions to come up with embarrassing comments. These six women constantly engage in deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior that is intended to emotionally harm the women they target.
Who are these mean girls? I call them the Vampire Twins, the Madams and the Heartless Duo. More about them at another time. For now, I hope I have piqued your interest on the topic. Stay tuned for more.
“When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.” – Unknown
It pays to be fearless.