You Only Live Once
You only live once. Ever think about what that actually means?
In my 20s I was married and had 2 babies. It was one hell of a good time too. In my thirties I got divorced, was a single mom raising those 2 babies and worked hard on my career. I had my 20s and 30s. I only get them once. I can’t have them again.
In my 40s I married again and those 2 babies grew up and went to college. I went to college too and had a successful career. In my 50s my 2 babies and I all graduated from college. It took me 15 years part time nights to get my degree. Then my mom passed away. I got a divorce again (3 years ago). My home became very, very quiet. I had my 40’s and 50’s. I can only have them once. I can’t have them again. You could say it’s God’s plan for all of us.
I’m 60 now and at a crossroad in my life. There’s nothing more hurtful to a woman than a man telling her she’s too old to love. We never ever want to hear that from our lovers because it is such a crushing blow.
Mr Pathetic (11 years younger than me) told me he would be 60 in 10 years and didn’t want to have to take care of a 71 year old woman. Of course my age never bothered him in the bedroom for the four months we dated. Having those words hit my ears and then strike me in the gut was such a slap in the face.
Each time we look in the mirror we see past the grey hair, the lines in our faces and every unwanted pound on our bodies. There is still a woman there…a woman who is very sensitive about getting older…a woman who remembers and wants passion… wants to love and be loved…who doesn’t want to have to apologize for already living her 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s.
We watch men get older with their grey hair, balding and big bellies. We watch them go through their mid-life crisis, which can be just as bizarre as anything I’ve ever witnessed. We watch men in their 60s chasing young women for a good time. If they think a young woman will make them young again, they’re so wrong. No matter what, they can never be young again…they can never relive their youth.
How is this for a one-liner? Women will never be equal to men until they can walk down the street with a bald head and a beer gut, and still think they are sexy.
We can only have it once, but the one chance we do have is one hell of a ride.
It pays to be fearless. Love to all….Karm
Posted on February 24, 2012, in Dating & Sex, Relationships, Writing and tagged inspiration, love, musings, online dating, rants, relationships, sex and dating, women, writing. Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.