I met Mr. BooHoo on a dating site several months ago and we became friends. We never met in person but had many phone conversations, and emailed each other daily. We shared a lot of very personal things about ourselves and got to know each other well, despite the fact we were not romantically involved.
When I was dealing with a breakup I confided in him about the relationship. Mr. BooHoo never liked my ex and was always very supportive and empathetic. He called me every morning to see if I was doing alright. They weren’t friends and never talked so I trusted him not to repeat anything I said.
Two months ago Mr. BooHoo and I had a disagreement over what I thought was a minor misunderstanding. He was very upset and left the dating site… we didn’t talk or email again.
A week ago he came back to the dating site and began sending me rude, nasty emails. Apparently, the disagreement made him so angry that he wanted to get revenge. He contacted my ex to talk about me.
I couldn’t imagine him going to my ex and telling him things we talked about, but that’s exactly what he did. My ex never liked him either but apparently had no problem sharing his own dirty secrets about me. I guess that’s what you call male bonding.
I was stunned and then furious when he told me what he had done. Now I was in his line of fire and he was unloading his barrel on me. This time it was a double barrel of his bull shit and my ex’s pathetic bull shit stories about me. Mr. BooHoo broke boundaries that can never be repaired.
He told me a lot of hurtful things my ex said about me, not as a friend, but to torture me as much as he could. He did it to hurt and humiliate me. Then he demanded to know if it was all true. It’s a disgrace when friends betray you and repeat what you talked about in confidence. It was an attack on my pride and my self-esteem. The two of them deserve each other.
Mr. BooHoo is known for backstabbing women in the forums. I know I’m not the first one and I won’t be the last. I was warned about him by a lot of women who’ve had similar experiences with him. Women told me not to trust him, but until I saw it for myself I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I’ll be sure to let those ladies know they were right about him.
I told Mr. BooHoo to have his fun while he can because Karma is a bitch. The first thing I did was block him as a friend on the dating site to stop the emails. Then I blocked him on my Facebook page. I blocked his phone number so he can’t call or text me. Keeping him at a distance will speak volumes about how I feel.
I’ve got more important things to focus on than his drama. If he’s still really angry and depressed about this he can always call my ex and cry on his shoulder again. I’ll give him the phone number if he wants it. Pass the tissues because he’s going to need them.
How would you feel if this happened to you? How would you deal with it? What would you do?
Posted on May 13, 2012, in Dating & Sex, Relationships, Stalkers, Writing and tagged breaking up, friendship, love, musings, online dating, rants, relationships, sex and dating, stalkers, writing. Bookmark the permalink. 42 Comments.