Monthly Archives: June 2012

A Cockroach or a Prince?

There’s a big difference between someone who is a nice guy and someone who tries to convince you he’s a nice guy.

When we’re dating and looking for true love we all want to find a nice guy, but do we really know what the differences are between a cockroach and a prince?

You can’t assume he’s a nice guy because he looks good, has a great body, nice eyes, a beautiful smile, a good job, an education, is charming, makes you laugh and/or says everything you want to hear.  He might look like a good catch on the outside but could still be a cockroach on the inside.

Here are 10 nice guy attributes to look for in the guy you’re dating or in a relationship with.

1. Nice guys aren’t broken; you don’t need to spend a lot of energy trying to fix him.

2. Nice guys give compliments, not criticism; you don’t feel bad about yourself when you’re with him.

3. Nice guys are  honest, not deceitful; you don’t worry about where you stand with him.

4. Nice guys are devoted to you, not attached to someone else (not married or still hung up on someone in their past); you don’t have to be his therapist or hear him vent about his feelings for someone else.

5. Nice guys are empathetic and caring; you don’t have to feel confused and insecure because he flip-flops between hot and cold.

6. Nice guys value their time with you; you don’t have to worry about why he’s not calling or making plans with you.

7. Nice guys take you out;  you don’t have to feel like a booty call or on-call vagina.

8. Nice guys make you a priority; you don’t have to feel like you’re last on his list of people to see.

9.  Nice guys acknowledge your feelings and needs; you don’t have to worry about giving in to his unreasonable demands and expectations.

10. Nice guys like you just the way you are; you don’t have to worry about not being good or special enough for him.

Now take a look at how you feel about yourself when you’re with him.  If you feel like an option, a disappointment, a booty call or a therapist with him chances are he’s not such a nice guy after all.  

If you have a personal story please share your thoughts and experiences.

Friday Fictioneers 6/29 – via Madison Woods

Liz patiently watered the raspberry bushes that she lovingly nurtured each summer.  They had grown to five feet tall and were bearing fruit that had to be picked daily.

Raspberry season was one of Liz’s favorite times as a child.  Her grandfather’s trellised vines were twice her height.  Each morning she and her grandmother filled a bucket with ripe berries. It was her job to pick from the bottom.

After blessing the harvest they would eat a bowl of raspberries covered in thick cream.  Today Liz wanted to prepare her grandmother’s favorite dessert for her granddaughter, raspberries and pound cake.

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Every Wednesday visit Madison Wood’s site to see the picture prompt for the week’s 100-word writing challenge. Write a 100-word story or poem that’s inspired by the picture. Post the writing on your blog. On Friday post a link to your blog entry in the comments section of her Friday Fictioneers post.

This is my post for this week…. Your feedback and comments are welcome.

Spam? Really?

I’ve been posting comments and instead of showing up on the comment page they disappear.

Apparently they’re ending up in your spam folder.  My comments have been rescued, fished out and saved by a lot of you.

I have no idea why this is happening.   If you see my blog comments in your spam folder please rescue them.

I am not spam!

 

Musings on Art

Musing defined:

  • Contemplation, meditation, deep thought, reflection, introspection, rumination
  • A product of contemplation; a thought.

“The Thinker”

Musings on Art

Words on a page

Paint on canvas

Symphony score

Rhythmic motion

Carved rough stone

Gives life to thoughts

Express ideas

Tell a story

Interact

Inspire

Awe

Be

“Poetry is not a turning loose of emotion, but an escape from emotion; it is not the expression of personality, but an escape from personality. But, of course, only those who have personality and emotions know what it means to want to escape from these things.”
-TS Eliot

“Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent”
– Victor Hugo

“Write about what your everyday life offers you; describe your sorrows and desires, the thoughts that pass through your mind and your belief in some kind of beauty”
– Rilke

(Image reblogged from AfriQtalk Culture Beyond Borders)

Bagged and Tagged

Dear Miss Katykins at beforeiforget

There’s no challenge too big for the diva!  You tagged me so I’m going to play. I loved reading the answers to your questions, and quite liked the questions you asked me.

Here are the game rules:
Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post
Create eleven new questions to ask the people you’ve tagged
Tag (eleven) people with a link to your post
Let them know they’ve been tagged

1. What is your favourite ice-cream flavour and why? I’m a chocolate addict so anything with chocolate works for me

2. Do blondes really have more fun? I’ve never been a blonde but I still have fun

3. What is the weirdest dream that you remembering having? (I’m talking sleepy dream here.) Once I was chased by a tiger and I had to fly to get away from it

4. Did you grow to become/do what you always dreamed of as a child? If not, why not? I never became a rock star like I wanted to for obvious reasons (you don’t want to hear me sing)

5. What is the most annoying fad that you’ve ever succumbed to?  I had a Joan Jett haircut in the early 80’s and it looked ridiculous on me

6. If you could steal someone’s identity for a day, who would you be and what you would you do as them?  I would love to be superman for a day. With all his superpowers it would be exhausting but I think I could do it.

7. Where would you most and least like to visit in the world? My first choice is London and Paris. My last choice is Afghanistan.

8. What, in your opinion, is one of the best/most useful inventions ever and why? The printing press and the internet are equally amazing inventions. Ironically, the printing press gave the world books and the internet made them nearly obsolete

9. If you could be any other species, what would you hope to be? I would love to be a cat

10  If you could see one music act dead or alive, back stage, first class treatment, who would it be and where and why?  David Bowie anywhere, anytime. It would be a thrill to meet him

11. Do you have any superstitions? I was sure my rabbit’s foot would bring me good luck.  It’s bad luck to open an umbrella in the house. Garlic keeps vampires away.  

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These are my questions for you to answer.

1. What is the name of your generation (X, Y, baby boomer)?

2. What is worse, a broken heart or death?

3. Describe a pet peeve of yours.

4. Describe something in the past you regret.

5. If you could eat only one food for the rest of your life what food would you choose?

6. What is your favorite holiday?

7. What do you like to do in your free time?

8. Do you prefer coffee or tea or something else?

9.  Name some things that scare you.

10. Name items you love to shop for.

11.  Would you change your sex for a day?  Why?

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Now the moment you’ve all been waiting for.  Who is tagged next?

I have a lot of new followers that I haven’t had a chance to get to know yet.  I’ll work on a list and notify the 11 lucky bloggers as soon as it’s ready.  All my best to you Miss Katykins.  Thanks.

Kissing

Kissing…we all love to do it.

Kissing someone we love is a natural celebration of affection between lovers.

It doesn’t matter if you’re straight or gay, lesbian or bi-sexual.

Feeling love and passion toward a partner is no different for gay men and lesbians than it is for heterosexuals.

Look at a person’s heart and not their package to see the love that burns inside them.

It pays to be fearless.  Love to all…Karm

Friday Fictioneers 6/22 – via Madison Woods

-Tiny Wonders

Fragile, delicate, unconfined, she pauses to rest her weary mind.     The gentle sound of water against rock is soothing in the unfamiliar landscape.  Giggling, she dips her tiny feet in the cool water.  Timidly moving between the rocks, she’s careful not to slip and fall.  Her curiosity is awakened by something hovering near a rock.

“Look mama. What is it?”

-“I think it’s a dragonfly honey.”

“It doesn’t look like a dragon. Can dragons fly?”

-“If a dragon has wings it can fly.”

“Oh, the dragon is flying away.”

-“Wave good-bye and then we’ll go home.”

“OK, bye dragonfly.”

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Every Wednesday visit Madison Wood’s site to see the picture prompt for the week’s 100-word writing challenge.  Write a 100-word story or poem that’s inspired by the picture.  Post the writing on your blog.  On Friday post a link to your blog entry in the comments section of her Friday Fictioneers post.

This is my post for this week…. Your feedback and comments are welcome.

Facebook Junkie

I’m finally on Facebook, the demon of social media.

I’m sitting alone here in my tiny dark corner of Facebook waiting for your visit.

Please come and see me and my new Facebook page and for heaven sakes…
Like me!!

http://www.facebook.com/SimplyKarmicDiva

Karmic Diva is now on Facebook!

Simply Karmic Diva waits for your arrival.

It pays to be fearless.  Love to all…Karm

Friday Fictioneers 6/15 – via Madison Woods

Every Wednesday visit Madison Wood’s site to see the picture prompt for the week’s 100-word writing challenge.  Write a 100-word story or poem that’s inspired by the picture.  Post the writing on your blog.  On Friday post a link to your blog entry in the comments section of her Friday Fictioneers post.

This is my post for this week…. Your feedback and comments are welcome.

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The two women walked along the trail to the lake in silence. They were both dwelling on the strange turn of events last night.  Neither had ever spent a weekend away without their husband, but they knew they’d be safe at the cabin by themselves.  This weekend was planned as an innocuous escape from the burnout they were feeling.  Surrounded by the serene beauty of nature they sought freedom from a chaotic life.

“Should we tell them Meg?”

-“No, I don’t think so.”

They giggled and walked hand in hand as lovers do, along their chosen path.

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Musings -Trust-

I read a great line this morning by Michael at Have a Dream.

“trust is like a bank account…invest often and withdraw wisely”

I use the word “trust” all the time but never think about its deeper meaning.  It’s a word that can elicit elation or fear, depending on my attitude toward trust.  When I trust a person I open myself up to the possibility of being emotionally hurt.  Of course, there’s an element of risk with any emotional investment.  Trust builds slowly over time, allowing me the chance to nurture my faith in a person and grow as a human being.

“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy” – Walter Anderson

Trust is the first step toward love and joy.

  • How is it possible to form a friendship or relationship without trust?
  • If you lack confidence in a person’s character, how is it possible to love them?
  • What makes another  person trustworthy?

Trust can be risky.

  • Does trusting a person guarantee they will value and protect your trust?
  • Is it possible to trust someone too much or too little?
  • If trust is lost or betrayed, can trust be regained?
“When my love swears that she is made of truth I do believe her, though I know she lies”   –  Shakespeare

Please share your self-reflections. I would love to know your thoughts.

It pays to be fearless. Love to you all…Karm