Category Archives: Health

30 Women in 30 Days – Day 18 (I think)

Holidays are crazy at my house and it can be exhausting.  There’s so much cooking, cleaning, shopping, wrapping and decorating to do. I’m posting this as a reminder for me as much as for you.

Don’t forget to take time out for yourself.

Sending hugs to you!

30 Women in 30 Days – Day 16

Body Beautiful

Heal your wounds.

Redefine your own beauty.

I have come to drag you out of yourself, and take you in my heart. I have come to bring out the beauty you never knew you had and lift you like a prayer to the sky ~Rumi

“Step Away from the Mean Girls…
…and say bye-bye to feeling bad about your looks.
Are you ready to stop colluding with a culture that makes so many of us feel physically inadequate? Say goodbye to your inner critic, and take this pledge to be kinder to yourself and others.

This is a call to arms. A call to be gentle, to be forgiving, to be generous with yourself. The next time you look into the mirror, try to let go of the story line that says you’re too fat or too sallow, too ashy or too old, your eyes are too small or your nose too big; just look into the mirror and see your face. When the criticism drops away, what you will see then is just you, without judgment, and that is the first step toward transforming your experience of the world.”  – Oprah Winfrey

“A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience.” – Naomi Wolf

“To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.”  – Simone de Beauvoir

30 Women in 30 Days – Day 14

When I started this blog series two weeks ago I felt rebellious toward the “perfect woman” image that permeates the media and the fashion industry. It’s an absurd image that few woman can achieve, yet so many aspire to it.

If we’re curvy we’re too fat to measure up to society’s standardized version of beauty…extreme thinness.  Consequently we often end up hating our bodies.

Excessive exercising, extreme dieting and overuse of diet pills and laxatives to lose weight are warning signs that a person could be anorexic.

How thin is thin enough?

Fashion model Ana Carolina Reston died from complications of anorexia in 2005 at the age of 21.

She weighed 88 pounds when she died.

You can see this young woman’s anorexia progress over time until her death.  To me this is not beauty.  It’s extreme malnutrition and starvation. The fact that she was still getting runway modeling jobs shortly before her death is tragic.  It says a lot about the type of body the fashion industry holds in esteem.

Do you ever ask yourself…

Q. If I’m thinner will I be beautiful?

A. You don’t need to be thinner. You’re already beautiful.

Q. If I’m thinner will I be sexier?

A. You don’t need to be thinner to be sexy.  Curves are sexy.

Q. If I’m thinner will I be happy?

A. You don’t need to be thinner to be happy.  You’ll be happier when you learn to love yourself.

Curvy is beautiful!

30 Women in 30 Days – Day 12

Today’s post is honoring the women who have been targets of domestic violence, stalking or any type of sexual, physical, emotional, economic or psychological abuse.

Whether a woman has witnessed it in the street, had a friend or relative in an abusive relationship or was in one herself, I believe we’ve probably all witnessed violence against women at some level.

Women are victimized by intimate partners, social acquaintances and friends, family members and even strangers.  It’s not unusual for violence or abuse to cause long term trauma related health effects.  Healing is their mission.

Violence against a woman is a violation of her human rights.

30 Women in 30 Days – Day 3

Love your body for what it can do, not for how it looks.

Celebrating our physical strength is so important in realizing what makes each of us beautiful and unique.  We can’t all be ballerinas, body builders or yoga masters but we all have energy and the strength to accomplish amazing things.  Each of us can choose to channel our energy into nurturing our body and becoming more loving toward it.

A prima ballerina has strength and skills that take years of practice to perfect.

Photography by Richard Calmes

Physical strength isn’t just for the young.

Tao is a yoga master, ballroom dancer, former actress and model and lover of wine. She is 93 years old.

Earnestine Shepherd is a 74 year old body builder.
She didn’t start working out until she was 54.

It pays to be fearless.

Mean Girls #2

Sunday wasn’t a typical day on the forums. A young woman dealing with HIV and drug addiction posted a disturbing message.  She claimed she was going to kill herself with a bottle of Xanax and vodka.  Her post went into detail about her desperation for acceptance and support from her family, who has turned their back on her.

She also posted about a woman on the site who has been bullying her in the forums and how hopeless she felt because of it.  She was coming to the site for friendship and emotional support and was met with humiliation and degradation more than once.

Fortunately one of her friends on the site had her phone number and contacted the local police in her town. The police found her address and they responded. She was found in time before she hurt herself. I have no doubt she was in an emotional crisis and if she hadn’t reached out for help she may have acted on her impulse to die.

The bully is one of the “heartless duo” (AKA Snake and Fake). I mentioned them in my earlier post Mean Girls #1.  They stalk their prey together and then gang bang bully their victim.  Snake is a ruthless 50 year old hag who prowls through the forums begging for attention.  Fake is a bully in her late 50’s who desperately seeks approval.

Snake and Fake are a team but Snake is clearly the instigator.  Fake follows her around the forums and adds her hateful, vicious comments to the posts that Snake targets.  It’s obvious that they’re both damaged and neither has control over their need to belittle other women.

I hope the woman in crisis gets the professional help she needs. Her life is hard and dismal. The last thing she needs is to come to the forums and be bullied.  Snake showed no remorse and took no responsibility for what happened with that woman.  The next day she was doing the same thing to someone else.

Cyber stalkers are cowards whose written words are poison to the minds and emotions of the victims they choose.

Belly Fat

I hate to admit it but I have serious belly fat. I’m curvy, not heavy or skinny. Back in the day when I was really thin I still had belly fat.

As I’ve gotten older I have even more belly fat. I haven’t gained a lot of weight so I could never understand why this annoying muffin top was taking over my waist. Apparently, as levels of estrogen decrease, body fat tends to shift from the arms, legs and hips to the abdomen after menopause.

Oh great! Damn hormones! Grrrrrr!

Now that I know what the problem is maybe I can fix it. I sat down with my tuna sandwich, potato chips and iced coffee and did what any normal person would do. I googled belly fat.

My favorite site was gutfat.com. They actually make weight loss sound easy. Their 3 basic rules are move more, eat less and eat right.

I’m going to give it a try. I’m officially on a quest for a (perfect) sexy, flat belly. Wish me luck. I’ll keep you posted on my progress.

It pays to be fearless. Love to you all…Karm