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I’m thinking about how nice it would be to share coffee with him this morning.  His sharp mind leads me into his world with a hunger for more. I search for a gap in the wall that keeps us apart, hoping to peer into his heart and find myself there.  Poetic thoughts of love and lust rule my day. When I look off into the distance I see only him and I smile.

“Sit in reverie and watch the changing color of the waves that break upon the idle seashore of the mind.” 

~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Chick Lit Award

There’s a great group of talented writers on Word Press known for their adult fiction for mature readers.  Erotica writers don’t always get the credit they deserve so I came up with a special award to celebrate their contribution to the blogging world.

-The Chick Lit Award-

The rules are:


I don’t want to forget anyone so I’ll refrain from nominating individuals.  If you’re a writer in this genre you can decide for yourself if you want to accept the award or not.  I want to give honorable mention to  Kyle Mew who gave me the twisted idea for this.  Keep writing and having fun.

Picture It Fiction #34

My Isabella

The first time he saw Isabella was a moment he would never forget.  As he placidly sat at his favorite piazza sipping his usual evening cappuccino, his thoughts were focused on the days events.  In the dim light, memories flowed onto the page with profound detail, preserving for a lifetime the many wonders of Rome that had captivated him that day.  Looking up he saw a woman staring at him, calmly waiting to be noticed…a beautiful woman with dark, dancing eyes and inviting lips.  Their eyes met and he smiled, knowing something exciting was about to happen that could change his life forever.


Picture it and write with ermilia. Write a  paragraph of fiction to accompany the image.
Or, it can be a poem. Anyone who wants to join in is welcome. Post a link to your story in their comments.

Send Me an Angel

When that special angel shows up with open arms and a heart that won’t wither hold on and learn to fly. If you let go you will realize someday that angels are few and far between. When one enters your life it is forever if you so desire. To have one is a miracle of life. To lose one is a crime against the heart.

I’ve been searching for you
for so long
My life’s been sacrificed
I’ve been longing for truth
And now I have found
all that in you

Like an angel you came to me
And now I see
The stranger in me is finally free
To feel true love

From heaven I knew you were born
on the wings of love
you were brought to me
I’ve been longing for truth
journeyed so far
to be with you

Like an angel you came to me
And now I see
The stranger in me is finally free
To feel true love.

There are narcissists, misogynists, cheaters, married guys and emotional abusers preying on single women who are vulnerable and maybe even desperate to be be loved. They will take you on a journey you’ll never forget. This blog is an honest eye-opener and says it better than I ever could.

The Wise One once said...

The Wise One once said: “Cultivate the Wisdom of obscurity…release the need to be more ‘anything’ in the eyes of others.” ~Lao Tzu~

Coping with having loved a Narcissist is not an easy task for many who are unlike the offender…the hurt, the confusion, the frustration, the embarrassment, all of it…it gets easier when, and only when, one is open to understanding something they don’t.  If you are reading this, you are ready.  You are a lovable human being, the Narcissist you fell in love with, is spiritually beneath you.  A fact is being stated not for judgement sake, but for you to shift to a compassionate sense of self-forgiveness and a platform to rebuild your confidence.  The quote from the Wise One, that you just read above…it is like kryptonite to the Narcissist.  Knowing this should begin to awaken you.  Your hurt and anger are symptoms of this transformation…

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A Cockroach or a Prince?

There’s a big difference between someone who is a nice guy and someone who tries to convince you he’s a nice guy.

When we’re dating and looking for true love we all want to find a nice guy, but do we really know what the differences are between a cockroach and a prince?

You can’t assume he’s a nice guy because he looks good, has a great body, nice eyes, a beautiful smile, a good job, an education, is charming, makes you laugh and/or says everything you want to hear.  He might look like a good catch on the outside but could still be a cockroach on the inside.

Here are 10 nice guy attributes to look for in the guy you’re dating or in a relationship with.

1. Nice guys aren’t broken; you don’t need to spend a lot of energy trying to fix him.

2. Nice guys give compliments, not criticism; you don’t feel bad about yourself when you’re with him.

3. Nice guys are  honest, not deceitful; you don’t worry about where you stand with him.

4. Nice guys are devoted to you, not attached to someone else (not married or still hung up on someone in their past); you don’t have to be his therapist or hear him vent about his feelings for someone else.

5. Nice guys are empathetic and caring; you don’t have to feel confused and insecure because he flip-flops between hot and cold.

6. Nice guys value their time with you; you don’t have to worry about why he’s not calling or making plans with you.

7. Nice guys take you out;  you don’t have to feel like a booty call or on-call vagina.

8. Nice guys make you a priority; you don’t have to feel like you’re last on his list of people to see.

9.  Nice guys acknowledge your feelings and needs; you don’t have to worry about giving in to his unreasonable demands and expectations.

10. Nice guys like you just the way you are; you don’t have to worry about not being good or special enough for him.

Now take a look at how you feel about yourself when you’re with him.  If you feel like an option, a disappointment, a booty call or a therapist with him chances are he’s not such a nice guy after all.  

If you have a personal story please share your thoughts and experiences.


Kissing…we all love to do it.

Kissing someone we love is a natural celebration of affection between lovers.

It doesn’t matter if you’re straight or gay, lesbian or bi-sexual.

Feeling love and passion toward a partner is no different for gay men and lesbians than it is for heterosexuals.

Look at a person’s heart and not their package to see the love that burns inside them.

It pays to be fearless.  Love to all…Karm

Swing Seduction

Once again, Big C tells all about his art of seduction. He’s so right when he describes what attracts a woman. Thanks for posting my friend.

First Date Nightmares

The world of dating can be a nightmare at times.

When I meet a new guy for the first time I never know what I’m going to experience.

I don’t know much about him, but the curiosity and attraction is there and I want to  meet him.

Where my imagination takes  me when I’m with him is part of the excitement of a first date.

I like to compare the first date to a movie genre.

Will it be a drama, adventure, comedy, thriller, a silent film, romance or X-rated film?

Will it be a short date, full-length or a serial date with more episodes to come?

What kind of first impression will he make on the first date?   What will I learn about him?

The Drama Date: He’s conflicted with himself and describes his life with tales of woe.

The Adventure Date:  He’s a thrill seeker, loves dangerous situations, or enjoys the role of the hero or rescuer.

The Comedy Date:  He looks at life with humor and makes you laugh a lot.

The Thriller Date: He has a dark past or seeks out twisted relationships.

The Silent Film Date:  He has limited conversation and social skills, or he ignores you.

The Romance Date:  He’s flirtatious, romantic and shows he appreciates being with you.

The X-rated Date:  He engages in graphic sex talk or makes unambiguous remarks about his sexual practices.

None of these types of dates are necessarily bad. It all depends on the type of man a woman is attracted to.  Some women might perceive some of these dates are red flags, while others would dive in head first.

I met someone new last week.  I call him the Mayor and it seems to fit him well.  I think our first date was a lot of fun and I left feeling like I wanted to see him again.   It’s impossible to fit that date into one movie category.  A mature, educated, intelligent man with a strong personality and keen sense of who he is always intrigues me.

Then there are the bad boys.  Bad boys are often perceived by women as being sexually open and exciting.  They’re dripping with testosterone.  When I get close to a bad boy I can almost smell it…it’s like an aphrodisiac. For a woman who loves to experience uncharted territory and excitement in their sex life,  a bad boy might be their first choice.

There are women who have a burning desire to tame a wild horse but the price is too high for me.  When I meet a man who isn’t  trained, tamed, shamed or restrained, they’re tempting  but I know they can’t stay the course.  What works for them doesn’t work for me and they’re not going to change their wandering ways.  For a good time I’ll take the bad boy, but when it comes to love, attachment and commitment, bad boys finish last.

I’m not a dating expert and I’m not qualified to give dating advice.  I’m just sharing my thoughts and trying to make sense of it all.  I lost count of all the first dates I’ve had.  Maybe you can relate to some of my experiences.

The Mayor and I have had a few late night conversations since we met.  We both think we can be great friends.  We can talk honestly about everything as friends, but becoming lovers might make it difficult to be completely open and honest with each other.  The big question we’re asking is, does sex ruin a friendship?

I really want to know what your opinion is about this.  Does sex ruin a friendship?